How to Be a Feminist Man and NOT a Misogynist Boy

By Sam Flynn on September 30, 2012

Feminist consciousnessunderstanding that women can and should be whole humans – not in comparison to male supremacy—is, was, and will always be the soul of feminism.”

– Manifesta: Young Women, Feminism, and the Future

The battle of the sexes is not a fair fight for a number of reasons. First and foremost is because men and women are equal but they are not the same. To me, that is why there are a lot of gray areas when it comes to it. Feminism itself is a moral stance; it is fundamentally a belief of equality.

The root of the issue is humanity’s struggle between his morality and his base impulses. Everything exists for a reason, but I’m not talking esoteric God stuff. I’m talking cause and effect. Gender roles, biased and outdated as they are in our current world, were at one point in the distant past useful for survival. Nature does not follow morality, it follows efficiency. That is the crux of the problem: we cling to the old systems that are ingrained in our brains instead of evolving in creatures who value morality over primitive, reptilian brain functions. We abhor killing but engage in war. We believe in fairness and equality but maintain stereotypes. We love the theory but hate the practice.

From flikr, by John Oxton

Natural selection and evolution is the clearest and best theory for the development of life and specifically humans. This can be seen greatly in the realm of sex and relationships. It touches everything from the origins of feminism, the phenomenon of violence by men against women, and the post-modern problem of disenfranchised emasculated men who blame society for their loss of masculinity. Thinking about these problems from the perspective of natural selection reveals the true origins of these behaviors. For example, women are the means by which humanity procreate. Without them, we would die off. It, in cold, unemotionally logical terms, makes sense to cultivate women as a resource and to fight over them for survival. Morally, it engendered an innate misogyny. It made men associate the amount of women and power over women with superiority and security, regardless of what the women themselves wanted as fellow human beings. Now, that system is gone, women are finally asserting themselves as able to do whatever they want to. Men in response overreact to this feminism by ostracizing them, demonizing them, and blaming them because it threatens their identity. It is a base reaction to a progressive solution. Men are still struggling with not being alpha males who need to protect women and kill for their food.

The problem in our current patriarchy is that it was developed for survival. But in this current world, we don’t need it anymore! Survival has been rendered moot because of a variety of factors, from technology, morality, and increased civility. The struggle in men nowadays is between our innate aggression, developed over thousands of generations, and our desire to live by what is generally agreed upon to be a “good” life: freedom, equality, peace, love etc. The struggle between the animal in us and our, for lack of a better word, humanity is the core of specifically men’s psychological dilemma. Men need to realize and fight their violent urges. THAT is now the new male identity. Because it doesn’t take a man to INDULGE in his fantasies, but it takes one to RESIST them.

By Sam Flynn

Uloop Writer
It takes a real asshole to sum themselves up in a few words. So I will. I am a sophomore journalism student at Ohio University with a minor in creative writing. I am copy editor at the InterActivist magazine, secretary for Theta Chi fraternity, and columnist for Rascal magazine. I love books, film, tattoos, MMA, motorcycles, rapping, and blazers. My idols are George Carlin, Kevin Smith, J.K. Rowling, J.R.R. Tolkien, Neil Gaiman, and Hunter S. Thompson. I am also now officially an asshole. Cheers!

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